5 easy ways to get through self doubt on the fly
"Your thoughts are like the artist’s brush. They create a personal picture of the reality you live in." Syd Banks
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When you slow your mind down and consider what thoughts loop through time and time again, what comes up? I spent many years telling myself that I wasn't good enough for more money, wasn't good enough for a better career, wasn't good enough for a great love. Where did that get me? A low income in a career that was going nowhere with a guy that wasn't the least bit suited to me.What we tell ourselves creates our reality. There are a lot of people who give themselves messages just like the ones I just described, and others who continually tell themselves they are fat or they are ugly and on and on. Where is that getting you? Low self-esteem and lack of self-love comes to mind.Confidence in ourselves and our ability to serve the world in our own unique ways is vital to living a fulfilled, meaningful life. So how do you get there? Here are a few tips:
Write a list of the qualities you bring to the table. Be honest with yourself and brag about your accomplishments and personal qualities as if you are bragging about your kid or your best friend. Step outside yourself for a moment and get objective.
Create an empowering statement that you can repeat often that reminds you of who you really are. For example, if you were looking at being worthy of money in your career, maybe it would look something like this; "I am a valuable member of the team that brings a fresh perspective and insight and am well worth the money".
Have a good look at yourself in the mirror, not for a few seconds, but for about 10 minutes. Repeat 'I love you' as many times as needed to feel love for yourself.
Meditate. Try a meditation where you build up the feeling of love by focussing on someone (or any being) that you deeply love. Holding on to that feeling, bring your own image to mind and turn that feeling of love to yourself. Feel that same compassion and love for yourself as you do for another.
Repeat I am worthy as many times as you can think of it. Post it around your home on little sticky notes or you could choose a colour and every time you see that colour repeat "I am worthy".
Self doubt arises in the mind, but so does self love. The samskaras, as we call them in yoga philosophy, those looping thoughts, can work in your favour with a little mind training. Why not start today. You are worth it. Read about how coaching might be your way toward self-love.